nothing worth doing comes free of charge

In today’s world we are faced with “instant success.

We see it all the time in a number of situations :

Firstly on the Internet, there are so many “get rich schemes” that promise so much for so little effort.

No doubt, you have seen many advertisements like these:

“Our 12-year old son earned $10,000 in his first month”

“Even my granny can do this”

The plain fact of the matter is that 95% of people who try to make a living online do not make any money at all.

Certainly, there are a number of very wealthy marketers who earn millions of dollars a year.

However, if you speak to them, most of them will tell you it took many years of hard work, with lots of mistakes made along the way.

Secondly on the TV

Nowadays we see lots of talent shows, where instant success is “guaranteed”.

Sadly, this is rarely the case. Although it is true that some people achieve short-term success, most times this is not sustained. People may have started in a restaurant, dreaming of success, and get spotted. Some will make it, but many will not get through the rounds on the talent shows. Very often, the people end up serving in a restaurant again, which is very hard to take.

We also see entertainers who are successful and think that they have been an overnight success, or who have it easy. Rarely, have these people suddenly made it. Normally they have been working for many years, before they become “overnight stars”. One example of how hard people work is:

Billy Joel who has sold over 150 million records worldwide, but it was a long hard road to success. He dropped out of high school to pursue his dream of becoming a musician. However, my the time he reached 22 years of age he had been playing in bars, was broke and was no longer living at home.

When his girl friend left him, he became very depressed and was close to taking his own life. He booked into a mental institution, which changed his life, and he came out determined to succeed.

The rest is history as he became one of the best-selling artists of all time.

Here is a good example of “nothing worth doing comes free of charge”.

Thirdly sports people

Nowadays sport is covered so well in the media. We watch many of the most successful sports people, many of whom are very wealthy. Many young people want to emulate this success and decide to go into the sport of their choice.

That may be football, athletics, tennis ,golf , baseball, basketball or any other sport that appeals. We see the wealth of athletes like Tiger Woods, Michael Jordan, Roger Federer and many young people dream of the riches.

However, few people realise how hard these athletes have worked to reach the very top. I have covered the stories of a number of these but here are a few :

Michael Jordan is one of the world’s greatest basketball players.

He famously quoted:

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career.

I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.

I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

He didn’t give up, he kept on until he became arguably the best ever basketball player.

In 1999 he was named the greatest North American athlete of the 20th Century by ESPN.

In 2015, he became the first billionaire NBA player in history.

Another classic case of “nothing worth doing comes free of charge.”

Carl Lewis is another great example

Most people would be happy with 1 Olympic Gold Medal, but Carl want an incredible 4 gold medals.

This could not have been done without a lot of dedication, hard work and determination.

Carl Lewis was an outstanding athlete.

Not only did he plan winning 4 Olympic gold medals at the 1984 Los Angeles games,

but in total he won 9 Olympic gold medals and 1 silver medal.

No other athlete has retained the Olympic long jump title, but Lewis went on to win 4

consecutive Olympic long jump medals from 1984 until 1996, which is a remarkable achievement.

His accomplishments have led to numerous accolades, including being voted

“World Athlete of the Century” by the IAAF

“Sportsman of the Century” by the International Olympic Committee,

“Olympian of the Century” by Sports Illustrated and “Athlete of the Year” by Track & Field News in 1982, 1983, and 1984.

Yet another example of “nothing worth doing comes free of charge.

Jesse Owens is not a name that many people know as his achievements took place in 1936.

Owens specialized in the sprints and the long jump and was recognized in his lifetime as “perhaps the greatest and most famous athlete in track and field history”

It was in the summer Olympics of 1936 where he achieved fame in Germany, where Adolf Hitler did not look favourably on black people. It is remarkable with such hostility that Jesse Owen won 4 Olympic gold medals in:

Long jump

100 metres

200 metres

4 x 100 metres relay

To win 1 gold medal is a superb achievement, so to win 4 in such hostile conditions demonstrates the belief that Jesse Owens could indeed do anything he wanted.

A remarkable athlete, who demonstrated what can be achieved with hard work and determination.

Conclusion

It is no doubt true that some people achieve success without too much effort.

Many people dream of success, but those that don’t achieve that success, normally don’t have the determination to succeed. It takes lots of hard work.

Many people will doubt us.

Some will tell us to give up.

There will be obstacles on the road to success.

There will be failures along the way.

However “nothing worth doing comes free of charge” as can be seen from the examples of the struggles encountered by Billy Joel, Michael Jordan and Carl Lewis. Just a few of the many who have found  “Nothing worth doing comes free of charge.”

Here is a video that you may enjoy

 

 

positive mental attitude-9 simple steps

Most of us realise that a positive mental attitude is the key to success. If that is the case then all we need to do is to adopt such an attitude and we will all be successful. However, for various reasons, a lot of us are not positive all the time.

Many factors affect our well-being and sometimes bad news means we are not as positive as we would like to be. Like many people, I have found myself being less than positive and I knew I had to get out of it somehow.

The way I got out of it was to sit down and write down all the things that I think are important for me to be positive. I have written them on small cards, take them with me, and read them when I have the opportunity.

Here are the things that help me to get and stay motivated.

1 Having a clear and achievable goal.

This really is important and I have spent a lot of time on all aspects of goal setting, and have written a book on the subject.

To achieve success in any field, it is important to have a goal as well as a plan on how you are going to achieve that goal. A goal is not something you write down, put in a drawer and never look at it again.

I look at my goals every day, and revise them accordingly.

2 Keep your focus

There are so many distractions in our life that it is easy to lose focus, and it takes a lot of will power to stay focussed. It may help to remember

Follow One Course Until Successful

3 Overcome All Obstacles Put In Your Way

As you travel on your path to success, there will no doubt be many obstacles put in your way.

Some of these may be easy to overcome, but many may be difficult. It is the difficult ones that cause many people to give up. However, as we are going to be successful, we will continue to overcome all obstacles.

4 Never, ever give up

This is a quote famously credited to Winston Churchill, a famous British Prime Minister. He was a leader in the Second World War where he faced many difficulties. Very few of us will face the hostilities that he faced, so we should take his advice and never, ever give up.

5 Eliminate all negative thoughts

It is useful to put this into place at the start of each day.

When you think something is difficult and you feel like saying “I cannot do that”, replace it with “I will do that”. Then you will find a way of doing it.

If I ever doubt this I always think of examples in the past.

Take the case of Roger Bannister.

In the early 1950s, doctors suggested that it was impossible to run a mile in under 4 minutes.They suggested any such attempt would be dangerous to the athletes who attempted it.

Roger Bannister had other ideas and duly ran the first sub-4 minute mile on 6th May 1954.His time was 3 minutes 59.4 seconds so he had achieved what many considered IMPOSSIBLE.

In the year after that momentous day,24 more athletes ran the mile in under 4 minutes. Now, it is no longer a target as the world mile record is 3 minutes 43.13 seconds.

That puts things into perspective.

6 Eliminate negative people from your team

When you are striving for success, there will be people who doubt you and will say things like:

“You will never do that”

“It can’t be done”

“Why don’t you get a proper job?”

You may have known these people for a long time, but you need to remove them from your team. You only want to mix with like-minded people.

7 Look on failure as an education not a negative

Most successful people have failed on the road to success.

Michael Jordan, one of the greatest basketball players of all time, will tell you how many times he failed.

Thomas Edison was a prolific inventor and had lots of failures when inventing the light bulb. When asked how he felt about failing 10,000 times, he famously replied:

“I have not failed 10,000 times, I have found 10,000 things that don’t work, which brings me closer to the thing that will work.”

8 Be enthusiastic all the time

In your quest for success, there will be times when you don’t feel motivated and don’t feel like motoring towards to success. It happens to all of us but you need to overcome these feelings as quickly as possible.

When people ask me how I am I normally reply “Fantastic” whether I am feeling like that or not. It certainly makes me feel better and takes people by surprise. Most people react positively and tell me that it has made them feel better.

9 Take control of your own destiny

As we know, from time to time, things won’t necessarily go all our own way.

In such situations, it is easy to blame other people for not doing things. It is easy to blame the economic situation.

However, to be successful we have to take control of our own destiny. There will always be times when people that we rely on do not do what they are expected. We have to manage this. Also, the economy may not be quite as we expect. However, there are always people who succeed whatever the situation.

We need to be one of those people who succeed whatever the situation.

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always give your best-put everything into every small action

In personal development,there will be lots of actions we need to take.

Hopefully, we will have set our goals, mapped out our actions and decided what needs to be done. There will be a mixture of actions. Initially you may be tempted to think some actions are more important than others.

HOWEVER ALL ACTIONS ARE IMPORTANT AND YOU MUST GIVE 100% TO ALL OF THEM

Many people who have been on a path of personal and spiritual growth have spent a lot of time talking. Talking with friends about what is wrong and what they want. Talking with therapists about their past and their beliefs. Talking with a mate about what needs changing. They have explored and explored and talked and talked – and not much has changed.

Exploring our limiting beliefs and where we got them is essential for opening the door to action, but taking is the secret to success.  We can talk and talk and learn and learn, but until we are willing to take action, nothing will change. It is not that it is time to stop learning about our fears and beliefs, but it is time for all this learning to result in action.

Many people continue to talk and want everything to be perfect before starting out.

The best thing to do is to take action, give 100% to all actions and learn from our mistakes.

WHO IS IN CHARGE OF THE ACTIONS WE TAKE?

We are always taking action, yet much of the time the actions may not seem important. Remember all these actions are important. It is a bit like a jigsaw puzzle made up of hundreds or thousands of pieces. If we miss one piece, the picture is not complete.

This is the same as our personal development plan. If we do not complete all actions and give 100% to all actions, it is unlikely that we will achieve the success that we are looking for.

ACTION V INACTION

Action is the single most effective antidote to depression, anxiety, stress, fear, worry, guilt, and of course, immobility. It is virtually impossible to be depressed and active at the same time. Even if you wanted to, it is difficult to keep on moping, complaining, lolling around and wallowing in self-pity if you get active and do something. Anything! Just doing is such an important part of being a fully functioning person.

In fact, that lack of action is not a result of depression; it is the cause. Don’t be paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake. Taking action, gives you momentum. Initiating the effort attracts opportunities and synergistic things happen.

Inactivity, on one hand, is most often a choice rather than an inescapable fact of life, while action is a definite way to avoid being victimized by yourself or others.  When you take action, you also take control. Thinking keeps you a prisoner of the past. Action puts you in control of the future.

If you find yourself asking, “Yes, but what can I do” the answer is very, very simple. Anything is a lot more effective than nothing.

Sometimes there may be too much to do which causes many people to sit on the sideline and take no action. I have found myself in this position and what I do is simple :

Break the project down into bite size chunks

Just take one action a day and give 100% to every action, until I am comfortable in taking more.

That represents 30 actions per month, 90 actions per quarter and over 350 actions in the year.

Here is a video with a famous quote

 

Do not limit your dreams

To fulfil your potential, you need to have dreams and to turn those dreams into actions.

But it is very important not to limit your dreams because we can all achieve more than we think we can.

In the personal development, you need to acknowledge weaknesses and unfulfilled potential, but it is crucial to stay positive and to not be too hard on yourself. Otherwise your self-esteem and confidence can take a real beating. Follow these tips to learn how to gently and gradually become a better person.

1 Set a deadline

When you are trying to better yourself, set a deadline. Decide how long you will need to make up your mind and stick to that time-frame. How much time do you need to reflect and gather information? When you decide, set your deadline and tell yourself that you are ready to live a better life. Without a deadline it is unlikely that you will fulfil your dreams as you will put actions off until tomorrow. We all know that tomorrow never comes.

2 Turn your dreams into desires

If you have dreams of a better life, make those dreams your desire. Dreams live in the head, but desires live in the heart. When your heart desires something, you will naturally seek ways to fulfill those desires. Your dreams will no longer be passive dreams, but will have a chance of coming true. So many people have dreams but very often they stay as dreams as they do not turn them into desires, and the desires are not turned into actions.

3 Build your self-esteem

Build your self-esteem by controlling the way you talk to yourself! Be nice to yourself and accept your little foibles and mistakes. Nobody is perfect, and you probably wouldn’t be hypercritical and unforgiving of other people, so don’t act that way toward yourself! Allow yourself to make mistakes and be unique.

Making mistakes is an important part of our learning and development.

4 Take a little action every day

Working on personal development does not mean that you need to better yourself constantly but that you are always working on some aspect of yourself. You can try to fit this into your free time by using your time efficiently, such as practicing a language while stuck in traffic with a book on tape. Just take a little action every day, and at the end of the year you have taken over 350 actions.

5 Dedicate some space for your development

Make sure that you set up action areas in your home or office. These are places that are designated to one action each so that you can perform this action and then move onto the next one. For example, you can set up an area for filling orders, an area for boxes that need to be shipped, etc.

6 Spend time with your friends

Even if your schedule is packed with things that you have to get done, be sure to fit in some time to spend with your true friends. Even if it is just time for a cup of coffee together, these friendships are going to make your life a bit more joyful and contribute to your well-being.

You have probably heard “All work and no play makes Jack a dull fellow”

7 Anticipate what needs to be done and take action

When it comes to personal development be sure that you act before action is needed as often as possible. This is important so that you are able to act as swiftly and thoroughly as possible. If something is inevitable, take action now before it is too late to do anything so that you are the one in control.

8 Take time for breaks

Personal development is hard work, so remember to recharge your personal battery. Take time to be with yourself. Exercising is an excellent way to clear your mind of the stress of day to day life, and allows you to practice self-discipline. You’ll feel better about yourself and build greater endurance to get through your day! You will be surprised how invigorating a 30-minute walk can be. Personally, I do this quite a lot and I find I come up with quite a few new ideas.

As you can see from the list of tips, you can really make a difference in how you feel about your life. It takes a lot of work, a lot of planning, and tons of patience, but it is all worth it in the end to become a better person. You will get more out of life.

Michael Phelps

Michael Phelps is one of the best-known sports people in the world.

He is a former American swimmer and is the most decorated Olympian of all time with 28 medals.

Of those 28, he has won 23 gold medals, which is an astonishing achievement.

At the 2016 summer Olympics in Rio de Janiero he won 5 gold and 1 silver medal.

This meant that for the 4th Olympics in a row, he was the most successful athlete.

As an outstanding performer, it is worth taking note of his quotes, and he gives us some advice in the accompanying video.

 

 

goal setting is the first step on the road to success

It is very difficult to achieve any success without setting goals.

Athletes learn early on in their development that Goal Setting is an important part of their overall training regimen.
Successful business men and women have always maintained that setting goals was a major step in their success, and continue to be as they seek out new ways to challenge themselves.

Despite the fact that most people will tell you that goal setting is a pre-requisite to achieving success, many people do not set goals for the following reasons :

1 There is too much pressure to achieve the goals. If this is the case it is better to set a more achievable goal.
2 Fear of failure. This is the main reason people do not set goals as most people fear failure. If you listen to most successful people, they will tell you that failure is part of the reason for their success, and we should all try to accept failure in this way.
3 They don’t have confidence. One way to gain confidence is to set a simple goal and achieve it. Then set more goals until confidence returns.

4 They are not sure of what they want to accomplish. This may take some time to work out, but the best way to do this is to sit quietly with no distractions and just think of one goal. Personally, I find this very rewarding as creative thoughts start to appear.
5 They don’t know how to set goals. This is valid but I have written articles on this that may help.

None of the above reasons are valid for not setting goals.

Only unrealistic goals apply pressure on an individual.

Fear of failure usually arises from a feeling that we lack control over our future. However, setting long and short-term goals really allow us to control our own futures.

Goals raise confidence levels in that they show you in a concrete way that success is possible.

Achievement of short term goals makes confidence grow and give momentum for greater achievement.

The goal setting process allows people to work out exactly what they want and what is important to them.
Setting goals is not complicated. It can be challenging, but the process of goal setting can be of value to you in building excitement and commitment, which are important factors in achieving success.

General Guidelines For Goal Setting
Goals should be challenging, yet realistic and attainable. Hard but realistic goals produce better results.
Write goals down and post them where you can see them on a daily basis.

Stick them on your computer using post-it’s, or on the bathroom mirror, somewhere you spend a lot of time.
Write your goals as positive statements that focus on success.

Write out an action plan for accomplishing your goals. This is where short term goals come in, each short-term goal achieved, keeps you motivated and confident.
Set a time frame. Be specific but reasonable.
Celebrate! Once you have reached a short-term goal celebrate it, give yourself a reward.
Revise goals when necessary. Sometimes things happen that you cannot control, you must not let that deter you from accomplishing your goals, revise and rewrite.
Prioritize your goals. List your goals in order of importance to you.
Goal setting makes so much sense on so many levels. Whether you are a novice or a “guru” Do not waste another minute, get started today!

Here is a quote by Tony Robbins

 

Nothing is impossible

All of us, at some stage, have dreamed of being somebody special, somebody famous, a celebrity. Who hasn’t imagined about being the player scoring the game-winning touchdown? Who hasn’t seen themselves scoring a winning goal in the World Cup Final. And how many times have we dreamed of being a millionaire, or successful, or happy with our love life?

Generally, we dream huge dreams and have big aspirations. Mostly however, our dreams remain only that – dreams. Eventually our hopes are just get forgotten.

Instead of experiencing life as an exciting adventure, we get caught up in the humdrum of daily living, barely existing.

Life can be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher, aim for the stars and you might end up on the moon.
The word impossible stuck in our mind, is probably the biggest culprit. We honestly believe that what we desire is just “impossible” to achieve. You get hung up on this belief, so you don’t even try anymore. You believe that no-one could possibly do this.
You’re wrong.
The world is full of examples of impossible things.
Just think back in time. Nearly every modern technological invention started out as being impossible. Remember watching Star Trek with their communicators? Flip a lid, or touch a button and you could talk to anyone. How absurd that seemed in the age of wired telephones! Nowadays nearly everyone has a cellphone, and those communication possibilities.

A prime example still exists today. Did you know that according to accepted aerodynamic principles that we know of today, it is Impossible for the bumble bee to fly?
The problem is nobody told the bumblebee, so it flies anyway.
What does all this mean to you?
The saying “where there’s a will, there’s a way” comes to mind.
If you really believe that you can achieve something, and you take actions toward that belief on a consistent basis, who is to say that you cannot achieve it.

Does any of this work with relationships and love?
That’s a most emphatic yes. If you don’t have any idea what you want to get out of your relationship, what chance does your partner have of fulfilling that role? If you don’t have a clear picture, how can they?
So step one- decide what you actually want.
Now you need to communicate that to your partner. Note I said communicate, not tell. You both need to have a goal where your relationship is going. These goals had better be compatible, or else you are heading for disaster.
People don’t seem to realize that having goals and dreams for your relationship is just as important as goals for your life. Dream big- huge love, great happiness, and then make it happen.
Get passionate about the relationship, not only the partner, work on the bigger picture in your mind. Remember, “What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve”
So believe in your happiness, see your perfect love, see it in your mind and watch what happens.
Remember nothing is impossible!

One of the best examples of proving nothing is impossible took place in athletics.

In the early 1950s, doctors suggested that it was impossible to run a mile in under 4 minutes.

They suggested any such attempt would be dangerous to the athletes who attempted it.

Roger Bannister had other ideas and duly ran the first sub-4 minute mile on 6th May 1954.

His time was 3 minutes 59.4 seconds so he had achieved what many considered IMPOSSIBLE.

In the year after that momentous day,24 more athletes ran the mile in under 4 minutes.

Now, it is no longer a target as the world mile record is 3 minutes 43.13 seconds.

From this we can see that NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE

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Time Management Tips-Make The Most of Your Time

Time management is so important. It is such a valuable resource because it can only be used once. Often we hear people say “I don’t have enough time” or “I haven’t had time to do that”. We all have the same amount of time, it’s a question of how we make use of that time.

In the video below, Les Brown tells us that we have 1,440 minutes in every day. Faced with that, it is a matter of how we manage our time.

When a person learns time management skills, it will help them to spend more time on more difficult tasks. Because of everyday time constraints, we need to learn how to make the most of our time with our work by doing more important tasks.

Time Management Effectiveness

We handle many different fields depending on what we do. There are many time management techniques that would prove useful for several fields of life. For example, a student can learn and practise time management by applying time management techniques when doing their homework or projects. Using time management techniques and practices can and will help to ensure the quality use of your time and the efficiency of the results that they produce.

Rather than working harder, we can work smarter so that we may realize how much time we can save when we use time management practices. But the success of these techniques largely depends on how you appropriately follow your schedule. A person can tremendously reduce their stress levels when following some time management techniques.

Having A “To Do” List

A basic aspect for effective time management is creating a “To do” list. This can help you cope and deal with the problem of losing time frequently. It is not advisable, however, to have several “To-do” list at once since it might lead to confusion. It is important that you place your list on a location that is easily visible for you. Hence, you will be able to consult the list right away on what your next task is supposed to be. When first faced with the task of compiling a to-do list many people go overboard and write down lots of tasks.

That really is not advisable as it is unlikely that the list will be completed. This will lead to frustration and eventually the “to-do list” will be regarded as a waste of time and will be abandoned.

Personally, I decide on 3 important things that I need to do each day and will devote time until they are completed. This is very satisfying and helps me to manage my time very effectively.

Prioritize

Another good method of time management is to handle daily tasks by prioritizing the more important tasks first. By doing this, you can then be able to separate the tasks that you need to do in accordance with their relevancy and significance. Then, you can deal with each task one at a time.

It is so easy to spend time surfing the Internet , but this should either be done sparingly or not done at all until our tasks have been completed.

Saying “No”

This can be a very difficult one as many people DO NOT like to say no.A very effective time management skill is the ability to say “no” when other less important tasks and affairs are brought up to you and you have more important pending tasks. By learning how to turn them down, it reflects your commitment to follow your schedule and accomplish the task at hand. Once you have mastered how to effectively do this, you will save a lot of time in the future. Not only will you be able to finish your tasks in time, but you will also open up more opportunities to accomplish more.

Time Will No Longer Be Your Enemy

Managing your time is important for several reasons. The most apparent reason is merely completing the job within the time frame you have allocated for it. It saves you from eating up the rest of the time needed for other useful tasks. For some, time is considered an enemy.

But getting yourself familiar with these time management techniques will enable you to enjoy your tasks as you do them, and quit worrying about time as a factor. After all, you cannot stop time from running; you have to keep up with it.

There might no be dramatic changes that comes with proper time management. However, it allows you to become more effective and productive as you continue to plan your days ahead.

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