Do not limit your dreams

To fulfil your potential, you need to have dreams and to turn those dreams into actions.

But it is very important not to limit your dreams because we can all achieve more than we think we can.

In the personal development, you need to acknowledge weaknesses and unfulfilled potential, but it is crucial to stay positive and to not be too hard on yourself. Otherwise your self-esteem and confidence can take a real beating. Follow these tips to learn how to gently and gradually become a better person.

1 Set a deadline

When you are trying to better yourself, set a deadline. Decide how long you will need to make up your mind and stick to that time-frame. How much time do you need to reflect and gather information? When you decide, set your deadline and tell yourself that you are ready to live a better life. Without a deadline it is unlikely that you will fulfil your dreams as you will put actions off until tomorrow. We all know that tomorrow never comes.

2 Turn your dreams into desires

If you have dreams of a better life, make those dreams your desire. Dreams live in the head, but desires live in the heart. When your heart desires something, you will naturally seek ways to fulfill those desires. Your dreams will no longer be passive dreams, but will have a chance of coming true. So many people have dreams but very often they stay as dreams as they do not turn them into desires, and the desires are not turned into actions.

3 Build your self-esteem

Build your self-esteem by controlling the way you talk to yourself! Be nice to yourself and accept your little foibles and mistakes. Nobody is perfect, and you probably wouldn’t be hypercritical and unforgiving of other people, so don’t act that way toward yourself! Allow yourself to make mistakes and be unique.

Making mistakes is an important part of our learning and development.

4 Take a little action every day

Working on personal development does not mean that you need to better yourself constantly but that you are always working on some aspect of yourself. You can try to fit this into your free time by using your time efficiently, such as practicing a language while stuck in traffic with a book on tape. Just take a little action every day, and at the end of the year you have taken over 350 actions.

5 Dedicate some space for your development

Make sure that you set up action areas in your home or office. These are places that are designated to one action each so that you can perform this action and then move onto the next one. For example, you can set up an area for filling orders, an area for boxes that need to be shipped, etc.

6 Spend time with your friends

Even if your schedule is packed with things that you have to get done, be sure to fit in some time to spend with your true friends. Even if it is just time for a cup of coffee together, these friendships are going to make your life a bit more joyful and contribute to your well-being.

You have probably heard “All work and no play makes Jack a dull fellow”

7 Anticipate what needs to be done and take action

When it comes to personal development be sure that you act before action is needed as often as possible. This is important so that you are able to act as swiftly and thoroughly as possible. If something is inevitable, take action now before it is too late to do anything so that you are the one in control.

8 Take time for breaks

Personal development is hard work, so remember to recharge your personal battery. Take time to be with yourself. Exercising is an excellent way to clear your mind of the stress of day to day life, and allows you to practice self-discipline. You’ll feel better about yourself and build greater endurance to get through your day! You will be surprised how invigorating a 30-minute walk can be. Personally, I do this quite a lot and I find I come up with quite a few new ideas.

As you can see from the list of tips, you can really make a difference in how you feel about your life. It takes a lot of work, a lot of planning, and tons of patience, but it is all worth it in the end to become a better person. You will get more out of life.

Michael Phelps

Michael Phelps is one of the best-known sports people in the world.

He is a former American swimmer and is the most decorated Olympian of all time with 28 medals.

Of those 28, he has won 23 gold medals, which is an astonishing achievement.

At the 2016 summer Olympics in Rio de Janiero he won 5 gold and 1 silver medal.

This meant that for the 4th Olympics in a row, he was the most successful athlete.

As an outstanding performer, it is worth taking note of his quotes, and he gives us some advice in the accompanying video.

 

 

goal setting is the first step on the road to success

It is very difficult to achieve any success without setting goals.

Athletes learn early on in their development that Goal Setting is an important part of their overall training regimen.
Successful business men and women have always maintained that setting goals was a major step in their success, and continue to be as they seek out new ways to challenge themselves.

Despite the fact that most people will tell you that goal setting is a pre-requisite to achieving success, many people do not set goals for the following reasons :

1 There is too much pressure to achieve the goals. If this is the case it is better to set a more achievable goal.
2 Fear of failure. This is the main reason people do not set goals as most people fear failure. If you listen to most successful people, they will tell you that failure is part of the reason for their success, and we should all try to accept failure in this way.
3 They don’t have confidence. One way to gain confidence is to set a simple goal and achieve it. Then set more goals until confidence returns.

4 They are not sure of what they want to accomplish. This may take some time to work out, but the best way to do this is to sit quietly with no distractions and just think of one goal. Personally, I find this very rewarding as creative thoughts start to appear.
5 They don’t know how to set goals. This is valid but I have written articles on this that may help.

None of the above reasons are valid for not setting goals.

Only unrealistic goals apply pressure on an individual.

Fear of failure usually arises from a feeling that we lack control over our future. However, setting long and short-term goals really allow us to control our own futures.

Goals raise confidence levels in that they show you in a concrete way that success is possible.

Achievement of short term goals makes confidence grow and give momentum for greater achievement.

The goal setting process allows people to work out exactly what they want and what is important to them.
Setting goals is not complicated. It can be challenging, but the process of goal setting can be of value to you in building excitement and commitment, which are important factors in achieving success.

General Guidelines For Goal Setting
Goals should be challenging, yet realistic and attainable. Hard but realistic goals produce better results.
Write goals down and post them where you can see them on a daily basis.

Stick them on your computer using post-it’s, or on the bathroom mirror, somewhere you spend a lot of time.
Write your goals as positive statements that focus on success.

Write out an action plan for accomplishing your goals. This is where short term goals come in, each short-term goal achieved, keeps you motivated and confident.
Set a time frame. Be specific but reasonable.
Celebrate! Once you have reached a short-term goal celebrate it, give yourself a reward.
Revise goals when necessary. Sometimes things happen that you cannot control, you must not let that deter you from accomplishing your goals, revise and rewrite.
Prioritize your goals. List your goals in order of importance to you.
Goal setting makes so much sense on so many levels. Whether you are a novice or a “guru” Do not waste another minute, get started today!

Here is a quote by Tony Robbins

 

Nothing is impossible

All of us, at some stage, have dreamed of being somebody special, somebody famous, a celebrity. Who hasn’t imagined about being the player scoring the game-winning touchdown? Who hasn’t seen themselves scoring a winning goal in the World Cup Final. And how many times have we dreamed of being a millionaire, or successful, or happy with our love life?

Generally, we dream huge dreams and have big aspirations. Mostly however, our dreams remain only that – dreams. Eventually our hopes are just get forgotten.

Instead of experiencing life as an exciting adventure, we get caught up in the humdrum of daily living, barely existing.

Life can be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher, aim for the stars and you might end up on the moon.
The word impossible stuck in our mind, is probably the biggest culprit. We honestly believe that what we desire is just “impossible” to achieve. You get hung up on this belief, so you don’t even try anymore. You believe that no-one could possibly do this.
You’re wrong.
The world is full of examples of impossible things.
Just think back in time. Nearly every modern technological invention started out as being impossible. Remember watching Star Trek with their communicators? Flip a lid, or touch a button and you could talk to anyone. How absurd that seemed in the age of wired telephones! Nowadays nearly everyone has a cellphone, and those communication possibilities.

A prime example still exists today. Did you know that according to accepted aerodynamic principles that we know of today, it is Impossible for the bumble bee to fly?
The problem is nobody told the bumblebee, so it flies anyway.
What does all this mean to you?
The saying “where there’s a will, there’s a way” comes to mind.
If you really believe that you can achieve something, and you take actions toward that belief on a consistent basis, who is to say that you cannot achieve it.

Does any of this work with relationships and love?
That’s a most emphatic yes. If you don’t have any idea what you want to get out of your relationship, what chance does your partner have of fulfilling that role? If you don’t have a clear picture, how can they?
So step one- decide what you actually want.
Now you need to communicate that to your partner. Note I said communicate, not tell. You both need to have a goal where your relationship is going. These goals had better be compatible, or else you are heading for disaster.
People don’t seem to realize that having goals and dreams for your relationship is just as important as goals for your life. Dream big- huge love, great happiness, and then make it happen.
Get passionate about the relationship, not only the partner, work on the bigger picture in your mind. Remember, “What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve”
So believe in your happiness, see your perfect love, see it in your mind and watch what happens.
Remember nothing is impossible!

One of the best examples of proving nothing is impossible took place in athletics.

In the early 1950s, doctors suggested that it was impossible to run a mile in under 4 minutes.

They suggested any such attempt would be dangerous to the athletes who attempted it.

Roger Bannister had other ideas and duly ran the first sub-4 minute mile on 6th May 1954.

His time was 3 minutes 59.4 seconds so he had achieved what many considered IMPOSSIBLE.

In the year after that momentous day,24 more athletes ran the mile in under 4 minutes.

Now, it is no longer a target as the world mile record is 3 minutes 43.13 seconds.

From this we can see that NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE

Please watch this video

Time Management Tips-Make The Most of Your Time

Time management is so important. It is such a valuable resource because it can only be used once. Often we hear people say “I don’t have enough time” or “I haven’t had time to do that”. We all have the same amount of time, it’s a question of how we make use of that time.

In the video below, Les Brown tells us that we have 1,440 minutes in every day. Faced with that, it is a matter of how we manage our time.

When a person learns time management skills, it will help them to spend more time on more difficult tasks. Because of everyday time constraints, we need to learn how to make the most of our time with our work by doing more important tasks.

Time Management Effectiveness

We handle many different fields depending on what we do. There are many time management techniques that would prove useful for several fields of life. For example, a student can learn and practise time management by applying time management techniques when doing their homework or projects. Using time management techniques and practices can and will help to ensure the quality use of your time and the efficiency of the results that they produce.

Rather than working harder, we can work smarter so that we may realize how much time we can save when we use time management practices. But the success of these techniques largely depends on how you appropriately follow your schedule. A person can tremendously reduce their stress levels when following some time management techniques.

Having A “To Do” List

A basic aspect for effective time management is creating a “To do” list. This can help you cope and deal with the problem of losing time frequently. It is not advisable, however, to have several “To-do” list at once since it might lead to confusion. It is important that you place your list on a location that is easily visible for you. Hence, you will be able to consult the list right away on what your next task is supposed to be. When first faced with the task of compiling a to-do list many people go overboard and write down lots of tasks.

That really is not advisable as it is unlikely that the list will be completed. This will lead to frustration and eventually the “to-do list” will be regarded as a waste of time and will be abandoned.

Personally, I decide on 3 important things that I need to do each day and will devote time until they are completed. This is very satisfying and helps me to manage my time very effectively.

Prioritize

Another good method of time management is to handle daily tasks by prioritizing the more important tasks first. By doing this, you can then be able to separate the tasks that you need to do in accordance with their relevancy and significance. Then, you can deal with each task one at a time.

It is so easy to spend time surfing the Internet , but this should either be done sparingly or not done at all until our tasks have been completed.

Saying “No”

This can be a very difficult one as many people DO NOT like to say no.A very effective time management skill is the ability to say “no” when other less important tasks and affairs are brought up to you and you have more important pending tasks. By learning how to turn them down, it reflects your commitment to follow your schedule and accomplish the task at hand. Once you have mastered how to effectively do this, you will save a lot of time in the future. Not only will you be able to finish your tasks in time, but you will also open up more opportunities to accomplish more.

Time Will No Longer Be Your Enemy

Managing your time is important for several reasons. The most apparent reason is merely completing the job within the time frame you have allocated for it. It saves you from eating up the rest of the time needed for other useful tasks. For some, time is considered an enemy.

But getting yourself familiar with these time management techniques will enable you to enjoy your tasks as you do them, and quit worrying about time as a factor. After all, you cannot stop time from running; you have to keep up with it.

There might no be dramatic changes that comes with proper time management. However, it allows you to become more effective and productive as you continue to plan your days ahead.

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Positive thinking

Positive thinking is an amazing tool, but without action it’s a waste of time. Rather than just having a momentary thought it’s more of a way of life. It’s a technique that you use to create positive affirmations that can counter negative thoughts and doubts by neutralizing them and building the self-confidence you need for whatever you want to achieve.

Thinking this way is a skill you can learn and develop with consistent practice, but it is worth it to create a habit of positive thinking?

In some circles positive thinking is sometimes cynically referred to as pollyannaish, a naive and overly optimistic view of life by overlooking the things we don’t like and focusing only on the good.

Do you believe in positive thinking ?

How do you view things, negatively or positively? It can be easy for all of us to focus only on the negative but it’s usually as easy to look for a positive angle to things as it is for a negative angle.

By looking on the positive side we can affect our subconscious mind as we invoke the law of attraction and we can then attract a better set of circumstances into our life. Remember to concentrate on the positive and expect a positive result but did you know that it takes as much effort to think about the negative as it is for the positive.

In some ways positive thinking is infectious and can lead to a ‘can do’ attitude within an individual, a team and an organization. It’s been said that the only difference between a success and a failure is the attitude of mind the person had before they entered that task.

One cannot pay lip service to positive thinking. You need to practise and make positive thinking your prevailing attitude towards life. The very feel of positive thinking itself will help you to feel confident and move towards your goal.

In order to acquire the great status of positive thinker, we must realize what positive thinking is all about and what it is not. Our usual misconceptions about positive thinking are that money will drop out of the sky; GOD will come on a chariot to take away the sufferings and pains and lot more imaginations, while this would be great unfortunately it won’t happen but by staying positive you remain open to new directions and guidance rather than just shutting down and giving up.

Attitude forms an important part of positive thinking whereas thinking contributes lot to the attitude. It’s kind of like the chicken and egg, which came first? If you have a bad attitude ,you’ll never consider changing how you think but can positive thinking change your attitude.

How you answer this age-old question about positive thinking and attitude may reflect your outlook on life, your attitude toward yourself, and whether you’re optimistic or pessimistic.

A positive attitude and optimistic thinking are healthy. When you wholeheartedly adopt a ‘with all your heart’ attitude and go all out with the positive principle, you can do incredible things. Happy, optimistic people are usually described as having positive attitudes and expressing positive thoughts.

Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success.

After Christopher Reeve’s accident in 1995, many people were so deeply touched by his attitude. Of course ,he could have given up and cursed life for giving him a raw deal but he didn’t. But consider this :if he hadn’t have been so brave and positive do you really think he would have survived for so long as he did? And deep down we all admire him for having such a positive attitude and inspiring us all.

No matter what happens to us, we can choose positive thoughts and choose a positive attitude. It may not be something that we were all born with but it’s a way of looking at the brighter side of life that helps us build the life we want.

If you would like to adopt a more positive attitude, but don’t know where to start, one option is to try and change your vocabulary.

For example:

Instead of saying “I cannot do that “, try “I am going to do that”

Instead of saying “That’s not possible” try, “Nothing is impossible”

Try to eliminate as many negative words in the course of a day and you should find that you will achieve more.

Here’s a short video with a quote by Willie Nelson

5 simple actions that will make your day more positive

We all know that it is better to be positive if we want to succeed.

Some days,we may wake up and not feel very positive. 
This could be for a number of reasons :

We didn’t sleep very well
We have had some bad news
Physically,we are not very well
The weather is not very good

Or a host of other reasons
Equally there may be times when we cannot explain why we don’t feel bad

It is very easy to mope around and feel down all day.
However,that will not do us much good at all.

I have found it is quite easy to turn things round and become positive.
None of these things take very long.
They may seem simple and you may doubt them.

However,I have found that cumulatively they make a big difference.

Here are the actions I take

1 First thing in the morning I say to myself things like :

“I feel great today” 
“This is going to be a fantastic day”
“I am going to achieve so much today”

2 The first person I see to have a conversation with, when asked how I am,I reply :

“Today I feel absolutely fantastic,I am so looking forward to today.”
Very often the other person looks surprised,but after a while they
admit they are feeling a lot better.
This good feeling becomes contagious

3 Drink plenty of water  
This really is very important
A lack of water can really make you feel sluggish.
It accounts for 50-70% of our body weight and is crucial for most bodily functions.
In addition,up to 75% of the brain is made up of water.
It should be water and not hot drinks or fruit juices.

4 Walk for 20-30 minutes per day. 
This is one of my favourite past times.
I see people with their phones and music while out walking.
Personally, I leave my phone at home and just enjoy the fresh air.
This simple activity can re-invigorate you.
Also,if I have been doing some work that is quite intense, I find I relax on the walk
and mange to solve some issues I have been grappling with.
Frequently,I also come up with some new ideas.

5 Set 3 targets for the day. 
Personally, I am very target driven and I find my day is judged by what I have achieved.
If I need to be energised, I set 3 simple tasks that I need to achieve in the day.
I try to do these early in the day, as it sets me up for the rest of the day.

These 5 actions seem very simple,but they work for me.
Another thing to remember is that research shows that if you do the same thing for 21 days,it becomes a habit.
So try this for 3 weeks, and you may find that you automtically do them every day.

I would be interested in any feedback,once you have tried this.

Nothing is impossible

At times we will be tasked with doing something which doesn’t look possible.

Whenever I feel like this, I take inspiration from people who have achieved remarkable things and have overcome all the odds.

Thomas Edison  Thomas Edison

Thomas Edison was an American inventor, and many people believe he is America’s greatest inventor.

He is best known for inventing the electric light bulb but he was such a prolific inventor that he held over 1,000 patents in the USA in his name.

He also had patents in the United Kingdom, France and Germany.

In addition to his inventions he was one of the first inventors to apply the principles of mass production and he is often credited with the creation of the first industrial research laboratory.

He spent a lot of time concentrating on his goal of inventing the light bulb and, at one stage, he was asked how he felt about failing 10,000 times.

He famously replied:

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

This has to be one of the greatest examples of persistence that we have ever witnessed.

Roger Bannister

Sir Roger is a former middle-distant runner who ran in the 1952 Olympics but was disappointed to finish 4th in the 1500 metre final. For a while after this he contemplated his future, but eventually he set himself a new goal:

To become the first athlete to run the mile in under 4 minutes.

This was hugely controversial at the time as many doctors suggested it was impossible, and some went as far to suggest that anybody attempting this would possibly die.

He had set out his goal, was undeterred by those who suggested it was not possible and intensified his training.

Eventually the day arrived and on 6th May 1954, Roger Bannister ran the first sub 4-minute mile in a time of 3 minutes 59.4 seconds.

Interestingly, in the year after that record-breaking day, 24 athletes went onto record the mile in under 4 minutes. Nowadays, that goal that was considered impossible has been shattered as the world record for the mile is 3 minutes 43.13 seconds.

Jesse Owens

Jesse Owens was a remarkable athlete who completed in the 1936 Olympics in Germany.

Along with his teammates they sailed on the SS Manhattan.

In addition, Adolf Hitler and other government officials had high hopes that German athletes would dominate the games with victories.

After such a long journey and faced with such adversity, it is remarkable that he won 4 Olympic gold medals in the 100 metres,200 metres, long jump and 4 x 100 metres relay.

Carl Lewis

Carl Lewis was an outstanding athlete.

Not only did he plan winning 4 Olympic gold medals at the 1984 Los Angeles games, but in total he won 9 Olympic gold medals and 1 silver medal.

No other athlete has retained the Olympic long jump title, but Lewis went on to win 4 consecutive Olympic long jump medals from 1984 until 1996, which is a remarkable achievement.

His accomplishments have led to numerous accolades, including being voted

“World Athlete of the Century” by the IAAF

“Sportsman of the Century” by the International Olympic Committee,

“Olympian of the Century” by Sports Illustrated and “Athlete of the Year” by Track & Field News in 1982, 1983, and 1984.

A remarkable athlete who spent time planning his success.

Billy Joel

For many people this may seem a strange addition as Billy Joel is a very successful singer. However, that was not always the case.

He dropped out of high school because he had a dream of becoming a famous musician. However, it did not go to plan and at the age of 22 he was flat broke and he no longer had a home.

His girlfriend left him, which tipped him over the edge, and he decided to take his own life. Before taking that drastic action, he decided to check into a mental institution. It was here that he realised what real problems were.

Since releasing his first hit song, “Piano Man” in 1973, he has become the sixth best-selling recording artist and the third best-selling solo artist in the United States.

This shows that with the right determination, success can follow.

 

If I feel, at any time, that things are difficult I take inspiration from such individuals.