positive mental attitude-9 simple steps

Most of us realise that a positive mental attitude is the key to success. If that is the case then all we need to do is to adopt such an attitude and we will all be successful. However, for various reasons, a lot of us are not positive all the time.

Many factors affect our well-being and sometimes bad news means we are not as positive as we would like to be. Like many people, I have found myself being less than positive and I knew I had to get out of it somehow.

The way I got out of it was to sit down and write down all the things that I think are important for me to be positive. I have written them on small cards, take them with me, and read them when I have the opportunity.

Here are the things that help me to get and stay motivated.

1 Having a clear and achievable goal.

This really is important and I have spent a lot of time on all aspects of goal setting, and have written a book on the subject.

To achieve success in any field, it is important to have a goal as well as a plan on how you are going to achieve that goal. A goal is not something you write down, put in a drawer and never look at it again.

I look at my goals every day, and revise them accordingly.

2 Keep your focus

There are so many distractions in our life that it is easy to lose focus, and it takes a lot of will power to stay focussed. It may help to remember

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3 Overcome All Obstacles Put In Your Way

As you travel on your path to success, there will no doubt be many obstacles put in your way.

Some of these may be easy to overcome, but many may be difficult. It is the difficult ones that cause many people to give up. However, as we are going to be successful, we will continue to overcome all obstacles.

4 Never, ever give up

This is a quote famously credited to Winston Churchill, a famous British Prime Minister. He was a leader in the Second World War where he faced many difficulties. Very few of us will face the hostilities that he faced, so we should take his advice and never, ever give up.

5 Eliminate all negative thoughts

It is useful to put this into place at the start of each day.

When you think something is difficult and you feel like saying “I cannot do that”, replace it with “I will do that”. Then you will find a way of doing it.

If I ever doubt this I always think of examples in the past.

Take the case of Roger Bannister.

In the early 1950s, doctors suggested that it was impossible to run a mile in under 4 minutes.They suggested any such attempt would be dangerous to the athletes who attempted it.

Roger Bannister had other ideas and duly ran the first sub-4 minute mile on 6th May 1954.His time was 3 minutes 59.4 seconds so he had achieved what many considered IMPOSSIBLE.

In the year after that momentous day,24 more athletes ran the mile in under 4 minutes. Now, it is no longer a target as the world mile record is 3 minutes 43.13 seconds.

That puts things into perspective.

6 Eliminate negative people from your team

When you are striving for success, there will be people who doubt you and will say things like:

“You will never do that”

“It can’t be done”

“Why don’t you get a proper job?”

You may have known these people for a long time, but you need to remove them from your team. You only want to mix with like-minded people.

7 Look on failure as an education not a negative

Most successful people have failed on the road to success.

Michael Jordan, one of the greatest basketball players of all time, will tell you how many times he failed.

Thomas Edison was a prolific inventor and had lots of failures when inventing the light bulb. When asked how he felt about failing 10,000 times, he famously replied:

“I have not failed 10,000 times, I have found 10,000 things that don’t work, which brings me closer to the thing that will work.”

8 Be enthusiastic all the time

In your quest for success, there will be times when you don’t feel motivated and don’t feel like motoring towards to success. It happens to all of us but you need to overcome these feelings as quickly as possible.

When people ask me how I am I normally reply “Fantastic” whether I am feeling like that or not. It certainly makes me feel better and takes people by surprise. Most people react positively and tell me that it has made them feel better.

9 Take control of your own destiny

As we know, from time to time, things won’t necessarily go all our own way.

In such situations, it is easy to blame other people for not doing things. It is easy to blame the economic situation.

However, to be successful we have to take control of our own destiny. There will always be times when people that we rely on do not do what they are expected. We have to manage this. Also, the economy may not be quite as we expect. However, there are always people who succeed whatever the situation.

We need to be one of those people who succeed whatever the situation.

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always give your best-put everything into every small action

In personal development,there will be lots of actions we need to take.

Hopefully, we will have set our goals, mapped out our actions and decided what needs to be done. There will be a mixture of actions. Initially you may be tempted to think some actions are more important than others.

HOWEVER ALL ACTIONS ARE IMPORTANT AND YOU MUST GIVE 100% TO ALL OF THEM

Many people who have been on a path of personal and spiritual growth have spent a lot of time talking. Talking with friends about what is wrong and what they want. Talking with therapists about their past and their beliefs. Talking with a mate about what needs changing. They have explored and explored and talked and talked – and not much has changed.

Exploring our limiting beliefs and where we got them is essential for opening the door to action, but taking is the secret to success.  We can talk and talk and learn and learn, but until we are willing to take action, nothing will change. It is not that it is time to stop learning about our fears and beliefs, but it is time for all this learning to result in action.

Many people continue to talk and want everything to be perfect before starting out.

The best thing to do is to take action, give 100% to all actions and learn from our mistakes.

WHO IS IN CHARGE OF THE ACTIONS WE TAKE?

We are always taking action, yet much of the time the actions may not seem important. Remember all these actions are important. It is a bit like a jigsaw puzzle made up of hundreds or thousands of pieces. If we miss one piece, the picture is not complete.

This is the same as our personal development plan. If we do not complete all actions and give 100% to all actions, it is unlikely that we will achieve the success that we are looking for.

ACTION V INACTION

Action is the single most effective antidote to depression, anxiety, stress, fear, worry, guilt, and of course, immobility. It is virtually impossible to be depressed and active at the same time. Even if you wanted to, it is difficult to keep on moping, complaining, lolling around and wallowing in self-pity if you get active and do something. Anything! Just doing is such an important part of being a fully functioning person.

In fact, that lack of action is not a result of depression; it is the cause. Don’t be paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake. Taking action, gives you momentum. Initiating the effort attracts opportunities and synergistic things happen.

Inactivity, on one hand, is most often a choice rather than an inescapable fact of life, while action is a definite way to avoid being victimized by yourself or others.  When you take action, you also take control. Thinking keeps you a prisoner of the past. Action puts you in control of the future.

If you find yourself asking, “Yes, but what can I do” the answer is very, very simple. Anything is a lot more effective than nothing.

Sometimes there may be too much to do which causes many people to sit on the sideline and take no action. I have found myself in this position and what I do is simple :

Break the project down into bite size chunks

Just take one action a day and give 100% to every action, until I am comfortable in taking more.

That represents 30 actions per month, 90 actions per quarter and over 350 actions in the year.

Here is a video with a famous quote

 

goal setting is the first step on the road to success

It is very difficult to achieve any success without setting goals.

Athletes learn early on in their development that Goal Setting is an important part of their overall training regimen.
Successful business men and women have always maintained that setting goals was a major step in their success, and continue to be as they seek out new ways to challenge themselves.

Despite the fact that most people will tell you that goal setting is a pre-requisite to achieving success, many people do not set goals for the following reasons :

1 There is too much pressure to achieve the goals. If this is the case it is better to set a more achievable goal.
2 Fear of failure. This is the main reason people do not set goals as most people fear failure. If you listen to most successful people, they will tell you that failure is part of the reason for their success, and we should all try to accept failure in this way.
3 They don’t have confidence. One way to gain confidence is to set a simple goal and achieve it. Then set more goals until confidence returns.

4 They are not sure of what they want to accomplish. This may take some time to work out, but the best way to do this is to sit quietly with no distractions and just think of one goal. Personally, I find this very rewarding as creative thoughts start to appear.
5 They don’t know how to set goals. This is valid but I have written articles on this that may help.

None of the above reasons are valid for not setting goals.

Only unrealistic goals apply pressure on an individual.

Fear of failure usually arises from a feeling that we lack control over our future. However, setting long and short-term goals really allow us to control our own futures.

Goals raise confidence levels in that they show you in a concrete way that success is possible.

Achievement of short term goals makes confidence grow and give momentum for greater achievement.

The goal setting process allows people to work out exactly what they want and what is important to them.
Setting goals is not complicated. It can be challenging, but the process of goal setting can be of value to you in building excitement and commitment, which are important factors in achieving success.

General Guidelines For Goal Setting
Goals should be challenging, yet realistic and attainable. Hard but realistic goals produce better results.
Write goals down and post them where you can see them on a daily basis.

Stick them on your computer using post-it’s, or on the bathroom mirror, somewhere you spend a lot of time.
Write your goals as positive statements that focus on success.

Write out an action plan for accomplishing your goals. This is where short term goals come in, each short-term goal achieved, keeps you motivated and confident.
Set a time frame. Be specific but reasonable.
Celebrate! Once you have reached a short-term goal celebrate it, give yourself a reward.
Revise goals when necessary. Sometimes things happen that you cannot control, you must not let that deter you from accomplishing your goals, revise and rewrite.
Prioritize your goals. List your goals in order of importance to you.
Goal setting makes so much sense on so many levels. Whether you are a novice or a “guru” Do not waste another minute, get started today!

Here is a quote by Tony Robbins

 

The importance of writing down your goals

Once you have decided on your goals it’s very important to write them  down.


There have been various debates about writing down and reviewing your goals.

Fortunately,there is some research that backs up the importance of writing down your goals.

This research is now quite famous.
In 1979 interviewers ask graduates at Harvard Business School the following question :
“Have you set clear written goals for your future and made plans to accomplish them.”

Bearing in mind that it is difficult to find a place at Harvard you would expect the graduates to be very goal-driven.
However the results were quite surprising :
84% had no specific goals at all,which in itself is quite astonishing.

13% had goals but they were not committed to paper.
Only 3% had clear written goals and plans to achieve them.

In 1989 ,10 years later, the graduates when interviewed again and the results were as follows :

The 13% who had clear written goals were earning on average twice as much as the 84% who had no goals.
The truly startling result was that the 3% who had clear written goals were earning on average
10 TIMES AS MUCH AS THE OTHER 97% PUT TOGETHER
That really is quite incredible.

Whatever your goal,if you need any evidence that writing down your goals and reviewing them regularly is important then surely this research shows exactly that.

Why goals should be SMART

When setting your goals they should be SMART

S is for specific 

If your goal is financially orientated the goal should not be “I want to earn a lot of money” .That is not specific enough. There should be a specific amount, e.g. $500 per month.

M is for measurable
You must be able to measure your progress towards your goal.
For example,you may be looking to lose weight.
If your goals is “I want to lose a lot of weight.” that is not measurable.

The phrase “a lot of weight” can mean different things to different people.
However,if you state “I want to lose 7 pounds” that is not open to interpretation. You have either lost 7 pounds or you haven’t.

A is for achievable.  
If you just starting your own business,you may want to be a millionaire.
That may be admirable but if you state “I want to be a millionaire within 6 months” you may be lucky,but it is not likely.
Your goal may still apply later,but it would be more realistic to state “I will earn an extra $500 per month in 6 months time.

R is for relevant
The goal must be relevant to your business
For example,if you have decided to start a business providing services to SMEs, it would not be relevant to have a goal to develop a product for consumers.
If you are working for a corporation,the goal must be in line with the objectives of the corporation.

T is for time-bound time
For example, you might say that you want to lose weight by next year .
Again that’s not specific enough.What you need to do is to pick a date and say that you’ll lose a certain amount of weight by a particular date.

So ,in summary , examples of SMART goals could be :

“From my online marketing activities,I will earn an additional $500 per month by July 31st this year.”

“By November 30th this year I will lose 7 pounds in weight.”

The next step is to take these SMART goals and develop plans to achieve the goals.

Setting goals-how visualization can help

When we are setting goals one of the hardest things it is to actually know exactly what we want to achieve .Sometimes we feel that we may just go for earning a lot of money but basically we need to be much more specific than that and determine exactly what we want .

One of the key factors is what’s called visualization , which takes a number of different forms but one of them is in sport .If you watch any athletics, for example, you may watch high jumping.Before a high jumpers starts ,what he or she would do is start to look towards the bar and pace out where they’re going to run and then visualize themselves going over the bar .That basically goes into the subconscious mind and becomes very positive which assumes that they will achieve their goal of clearing the bar.

If you watch a 100 metres race, many of the contestants will be looking down the lane and imagining they will cross the line before their competitors. A good example of this is in the Barcelona Olympics. In the final of the 100 metres, Linford Christie just looked down his lane and imagined he would cross the line before any of his competitors. It worked for him as he won the gold medal.

When we set our own goals sometimes visualisation also helps. If, for example we want to earn some extra money to buy a new car, a new camera, a new house or perhaps go on holiday ,one of the best things that we can do is to find a photograph of one of these desires and keep it somewhere that will remind us several times a day of what we want.

For example,if we want a new camera,cut out a photo of the camera in a camera magazine and pin it to the wall. Similarly for anything else that we want.

One of the keys to making this work is looking at the photograph several times a day. What happens is that the neurons in our brains interpret imagery as equivalent to real-life action. Thus, we assume that we own the object in the image and act accordingly. For example, if we are looking at the camera, our mind assumes that we already own it.

Perhaps,we have decided that we want to buy a specific car.Car

Another key is to make the desire realistic. For example, if we are just starting out and decide that we want to own our own aeroplane in the next 12 months, for most of us that is not achievable. The likelihood is that we will become disillusioned as we realise that it is no more than a dream. Whereas, if we make the goal realistic and manage to achieve it, we will be encouraged to continue to use visualization to help us to achieve our goals.

Initially, I wasn’t sure about visualization, but now I practise it all the time.